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What Not To Text a Woman When Trying To Secure a Date

There are many mistakes that can be made when it comes to texting a woman you want to date, which can often lead to rejection. By avoiding these pitfalls, you’ll be sure to make a better impression and increase your chances of securing that date.

"You have to get to the point with women, but you have to be very respectful about it. If she gives you her number and it's real you want to keep it casual."

Don't text back right away

In today’s dating world, one of the cardinal rules is “don’t text a woman back right away.” The thinking behind this rule is that if you respond too quickly, it looks like you’re just waiting for her to respond, which comes across as weak. This can be a major turnoff for women, who are attracted to confident men who seem like they have their life together. Additionally, responding too quickly gives off the impression that you don’t have anything else going on in your life or that you are desperate. So, if you want to make a good impression, it’s best to play it cool and wait a few hours (or even a day) before responding to her text. Who knows, she might even appreciate the mystery.

Text Minimally

When it comes to texting, less is definitely more. If you’re constantly bombarding a girl with long, rambling texts, you’re not going to score points for being interesting or engaging. Instead, focus on keeping your texts short and sweet. Ask her quick questions that will prompt a response, and avoid getting caught up in lengthy conversations. After all, the whole point of texting is to eventually meet up in person, so save the real conversation for when you’re face to face. Otherwise, you’re just going to end up as one of her many texting buddies – and that’s not the kind of relationship you’re looking for.

If she's being elusive

Dating can be a frustrating process, especially when you feel like you’re constantly striking out. If you’re constantly meeting women who seem wishy-washy or uninterested, it’s important to take a step back and reassess your approach. Instead of getting discouraged, try giving them a little time and space. In some cases, women just need a little time to warm up to the idea of a date. If you give them a little space, they may come around. However, if after some time they still don’t seem interested, it’s probably best to move on. There are plenty of other fish in the sea, and there’s no point in wasting your time on someone who’s not interested.

Keep it casual if says yes to a date

When you ask a woman out on a date, it is important to remain casual and confident. If you act too excited or desperate, it will come across as needy and pushy. Women want to date men who are easy-going and relaxed. Show her that you are confident and secure in yourself by keeping your response to her acceptance low-key. This doesn’t mean you should be cold or uninterested; simply maintain a level of detachment. Let her see that you are happy she said yes, but that you are not hanging on her every word or action. Doing so will make you more attractive and increase your chances of getting a second date.

Plan the date

So you’ve finally asked her out and she said yes. Congratulations! The hard part is over, now it’s time to start planning the date. If she said she’s cool with anything, take charge and make the decisions. Tell her when and where to meet, and how to dress. If you’re planning on going somewhere casual, let her know so she can dress appropriately. Once you have the basic details sorted out, you can start thinking about what kind of date you want to have. Do you want it to be romantic, or more casual? What kind of activities do you both enjoy? Keep her interests in mind when planning the date, and try to come up with something that will be fun for both of you. Whatever you do, just make sure you relax and enjoy yourself. After all, that’s what dating is all about.


Now that you know the do’s and don’ts of text messaging women for dates, it’s time to put your new skills into practice. Remember, always take things slow and easy. If she responds positively to your initial texts, keep the banter light and fun. If she doesn’t seem interested, move on. And finally, if everything goes well and she says yes to a date, make sure to keep it casual! For more dating advice or tips on how to attract beautiful women, be sure to subscribe to our YouTube channel or sign up for our newsletter today. Thanks for reading!

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